All 4 of my babies were on a predictable and easy schedule one week home from the hospital–NOT. Our first babies were twins and I stumbled around for 3 months trying to figure out what to do with them all day and night long.
There are too many opinions on the subject of baby schedules. Many experts are either at one end of the spectrum or the other–prescribing a strict schedule or none at all. I prefer a daily routine which marries the two quite nicely. The routine our babies followed is still in place now that we have school-aged children down to a toddler.
A routine is nothing more than predictable events of the day in the same order and relatively at the same time of day.
What’s the point in having a routine? For starters, children need to know what to expect. Babies and toddlers do not have a concept of time, but they do know (if you have a routine) that when they wake up they eat. They know that after they play for a while, they take a nap. Their bodies actually depend on this predictability. In time, you will learn to depend on your routine too. There is a natural rhythm that begins to develop when a little one knows what to expect. You’ll find there are less battles to fight in a day (i.e.. naps and tantrums).
Below is a sample routine you can use to structure your day. The main parts of the routine are sleep, eat, play. Keep these in order as best you can. The number of naps your baby or toddler takes in a day is up to you and your baby, but if you have a child age 4 or younger, he should have at least one nap.
Morning
- wake up cuddle (unless your baby is screaming for food:)
- breakfast
- play
- nap (for age 0 to about about 18 months) OR errands (if no nap)
- snack
- play (optional nap, for the newborns)
Afternoon
- lunch
- play
- nap
- snack
- play (optional nap for newborns)
Evening
- Dinner
- play/family time
Bedtime routine
- bath (you may feel that bathing every other day is sufficient)
- diaper,
- feeding for infants or milk for toddlers
- read books/sing
Note: Don’t miss out on the sweet moments of bedtime. If you make this a nightly routine, it will last well into later childhood. Some of the most precious conversations and teaching moments have occurred at bedtime in our home. I wouldn’t trade that last hour for any other during the day.
Want to know the secret to making a routine work in your home? Don’t leave anything out. Don’t skip breakfast. Don’t skip a snack, unless baby refuses to eat. Don’t even think about skipping a nap–that’s a big one. It’s tempting, I know. You don’t need to put a time next to each event and be ruled by the clock. Just let the structure of the day be your guide and roughly think of times associated with each event. The results will speak for themselves though. Hold off on evaluating your progress on the first couple of days. Challenge yourself to stick to a routine for one week and then evaluate.
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Thank you so much for this! This is very helpful!
This is great! I’ve been doing a lot of schedule rearranging lately, and more daughter doesn’t know what to think. I just started working part time again, and I’m struggling to get her up early enough that she’ll be able to take a morning nap before she goes to daycare. I don’t work first think in the morning. Now we’re all messed up. I have to pick something and be consistent. This is a start, thanks!
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I can relate to the chaos of toddlers and infants at the same time. I would start with the 2 and 3 year old and try to get them on a routine first. Try to get them eating and resting at roughly the same time every day. For example: breakfast, a good play time outside in the late morning, lunch, reading time or other quiet play, then attempt a nap. Or at the very least, separate quiet times in their room. Let us know how it goes and good luck!
m having three kids.3years old 2 years old n 2months old.the problem is tht tat my older kids does nt play with each other.they always fight n keeps on throwing tantrum.hhow can i establish a routine
I am a huge proponent of routines! It not only helps my little ones to know what is coming next in the day, it also helps me feel grounded in a sense of peace and order.
Thanks for sharing these practical suggestions.
I love your comments about bedtime. I think so many parents are exhausted by that hour, that bedtime routines fall by the wayside. My daughter goes down really easily (often happily waving bye bye), and I think it’s because she has a set routine. Kids thrive off of predictable structures.
Hi Stacie, this is good info. We’ve been talking about kids for a while now and I’m learning all I can. Thanks!
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